It’s a powerful word. It conjures up images of fun…joy…passion and pleasure. To take delight in being with someone is one of the highest ways we demonstrate honor. It says, “I absolutely love being with you.”
Compare delight with her valuable, but lesser twin – DUTY. When confronted with a difficult situation, like a soldier keeping his post in the middle of a fierce battle, or a firefighter rushing into a burning building to save someone, duty is a beautiful and noble thing.
However, when it comes to marriage, delight trumps duty every time!
Let me explain. Pastor John Piper shared an illustration that has forever impacted the way in which I express love for my wife. He writes,
Picture me bringing a dozen roses home to my wife on our wedding anniversary. I hold them out to her at the door; she smiles and says, “Oh Johnny, they’re beautiful, why did you?” Suppose I lift my hand in a self-effacing gesture and say, “It’s my duty.”
So what’s wrong? Is duty a bad thing? No, it’s not a bad thing. But it can only take you so far. If you want romance, duty won’t reach. The right answer to my wife’s question goes like this: “I couldn’t help myself. My happiness just got out of hand. In fact, to make my day, I’d really enjoy taking you out tonight.”
When it comes to marriage, duty to the marriage covenant will keep you in the game. But if you want to take your level of marital intimacy to a whole new level, you better learn to DELIGHT in the wife of your youth!
The amazing thing about this answer is that it does two things that many people think won’t fit together. It expresses my happiness and makes her feel honored. A lot of people think that if I do something because it makes me happy, it can’t honor another person. But it can! Why? Because delighting in someone is a very high compliment. If you enjoy someone, two amazing things happen: You get the joy; they get the glory. Pleasure is the measure of your treasure.
Men, take pleasure in your wife. Tell her how much joy she brings you. Let her know, again and again, that there’s no one you’d rather be with than her. If you had to do it all over again, you’d choose her every time.
Cherish her by taking delight in her.
She is your treasure.
Tell her today…like NOW!